Teen Football Player Uses #HustleBelieveReceive to Achieve Dream
Updated: Apr 2
I've been teaching my children how to apply my #HBRMethod for years. I think it's sooo important that we give our kids the skillset and tools to handle; stress, anxiety, goals, dreams, depression, disappointment and all the other emotions they face now and in the future.
I wish I had these skills when I was a kid, to think of how much further I'd have gone in life if I did! But since I can't change my own past, at least I can help shape my children's futures.
I share this story as an example of how we can teach our kids the skills and tools we've learned in #HustleBelieveReceive. I share it because it is such a great example of what types of outcomes we can help our children achieve and how we can fortify them for success in life.
My son Kanen's dream (#DreamIT) is to be a D-1 college football player, but his ultimate dream is to one day play in the NFL. He understands that in order for him to make those #BigPictureDreams a reality he'll need to accomplish other "smaller" goals along the way.
So, he went ALL IN. He showed up for weight-lifting at 6:00 am, before school, five days a week for five months before the season even started. Then in June when practice and camps began he gave it 200% determined to make the roster (ly played in 3 games, on the Freshman team (not even the JV team). At the start of last season, he suffered a broken ankle injury that prevented him from playing most of the season. That did not deter his goals however, he knew that to get to the level he dreams of reaching, this year was going to be critical.
So, he went ALL IN. He showed up for weight-lifting at 6:00 am, before school, five days a week for five months before the season even started. Then in June when practice and camps began he gave it 200% determined to make the roster (#TheHustle).
When the time finally came for coaches to pick the roster before the start of the season, Kanen did not make the cut. (#EarthquakeMoment)
He was devastated.
He'd worked so hard, harder than he'd ever worked at a goal in his whole life. He'd laid it all out there, giving it everything he had. That day when I picked him up from practice, he was so defeated, so frustrated. So, I told him the truth; that we never know what our future holds. We never know what can happen. That encountering disappointments and obstacles is NOT the time to give up or lose focus and drive. Instead, it’s EXACTLY the time when we need to turn up the heat because we just never know what could happen. We can't except disappointment as "failure."
I asked him if he still wanted his dream? If he could still see it? I asked him how BAD he wanted it? If it was still worth going to practice and fighting for? He said it was.
I told him there was only one option then, go back to practice and pretend it never happened. Pretend he still had a shot. I told him coaches will watch him every day. They will look for those signs of defeat and that he couldn't risk showing it if he still wanted his dream. I reminded him that ANYTHING can happen, that it's not our job to accept "no" as an answer or give up. It's our job to keep fighting as if the outcome is still to be determined. (#RelentlessPursuit)
The next day, he got up with renewed optimism and determination. He reminded himself that paying football is his dream, it's what he loves and no matter what team he was on, he was still playing football, doing what he loved. (#ItstheJourney)
He gave it 200%.
His coaches took notice and one day, right before the first game they called him into the office and told him he’d DONE IT!! He’d made the varsity roster! He'd still be playing part-time JV and part varsity, but he'd done it! He could be photographed with the team in his varsity uniform (as one of 3 sophomores on the team). (#ManifestThat!)
He was ecstatic!
And then he broke and tore his finger. (#EarthquakeMoment)