How to Silence Haters
Updated: Apr 2
How do you pursue your dreams, when you're not exactly surrounded by the most supportive people?
That's a question I get a lot. I think many people use it as a demobilizing obstacle to pursuing their dreams, thinking it's not something they can control or overcome, but that couldn't be farther from the truth.
This is something I've faced many times personally, throughout the past several years, as I've been chasing my dreams. And I've learned that there are really two ways to deal with "haters."
Who are "haters?" They might be family, maybe they're friends or co-workers, or maybe they're even your significant other. Haters are the people in our lives who put us down for dreaming big and thinking of a life outside the box. Whether it's overt doubt, passive-aggressive judgment, or subtle skepticism, that energy can get us down and sidetrack us from our goals.
If you haven't faced something like this yet, chances are you will. We all go through it at one time or another in the pursuit of our dreams. I talk about this in my book Hustle Believe Receive as #ChangYourCrew.
There are 2 ways to deal with haters:
1. If they ARE someone who can be cut (even temporarily) from your life, do it. We are a reflection of the people in our circle, and they are a representation of us. If they are not people you look up to, admire or who add value to your life, then it's probably time to distance yourself from them or cut them out completely. This means in real life and on social media.
2. If they are NOT someone who can be cut from your life (such as a significant other, close family member), the best thing to do, is to silently nurture and cherish your dreams. Speak them out loud to yourself, or to people who you know will support them, but don't bring them up with people who don't. Take the "I'll show you, not tell you" approach. Use their doubt and skepticism to fuel your desire to WIN. Use it as MOTIVATION. I'm telling you, hater motivation can be the best kind when you're starting out!
Just remember, your dreams are YOURS. Others will come on board when they see you following through, hustling and finding success. So, in the meantime, protect them against negative energy by DOING the work to make them come to life. Less talk and a little more action will cure this pretty quick!
And, remember... those people who ARE supportive, nurture those relationships on a regular basis. Let them know how much you love and appreciate them. And when you come across a dreamer on their hustle, make sure you pour a little love and positivity onto their dreams too.
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