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Welcome back to The Sarah Centrella Show! SUBSCRIBE on Apple Podcas t, Spotify , Audible or anywhere you get your podcast. Living Authentically: Stop People-Pleasing and Get Un-Stuck. Today I'm talking with the author of Un-Stuck , host of the Create Your Happy podcast, and self-proclaimed Happiness Hussy, Christy Holt. In this episode, Christy shares her story of how she was able to get un-stuck and find the courage to make some massive life decisions which has led to her leading an authentically aligned life. Are you feeling stuck in your life? Your situation? We talk about how to recognize if you're stuck and then what to do about it, so you can begin living your best and most beautiful life. We also talk about how to discover what it is you truly want and how you go about getting to know yourself in a way that can completely set you free. What can you do TODAY to start asking those questions and finding those answers, Christy shares some great tips here, so take notes and do the "what I want" exercise. Lastly, we dig into the paralyzing loop of being a people pleasing and how to break free, and stop people pleasing, and begin creating boundaries that you can respect and enforce. Follow Christy on Instagram and be sure to leave us a comment to let us know if this episode resonated with you. You can grab a copy of her book, journal and the freebies she mentioned at: https://coachchristyholt.com/ As always, I ask that you share the love by commenting on the show's Instagram post, sharing, and telling a friend xoxo Sarah Centrella is a 3x best-selling author, Founder of VIVIAMO , motivational speaker and master life coach who's been teaching people around the world how to create and live their dream life for over a decade. Learn More

Here are 3 Questions to Ask Yourself that will Lead to All the Answers. One of my tricks to finding the answers I'm looking for in just about any given situation, is to ask myself critical questions. In times of stress, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, lack, struggle, fear or just about any other negative emotion, our natural tendency is to focus on what's going wrong. The problem with this is that the more we focus on it, the more our brain begins to obsess and spin out, to the point where all we can see is our current situation. Of course this only makes the problem bigger and the situation worse. Whenever I begin to feel this way, I pause and ask myself a critical question. This helps me take a breath and search for the solution, rather than focusing on the problem. It helps me scope past the current situation, and see the bigger picture. It also helps me regain control when I might otherwise feel powerless or out of control. These questions work like magic to help us find the answers we seek. They provide guidance, direction and provide action items to get our power back. 3 Questions to Ask Yourself 1. WHAT DO I CONTROL? This question is everything! It is the fastest way to get out of a negative tailspin, and begin focusing on what's within our control, vs. what's not. Use it whenever you are feeling: Overwhelmed, frustrated, helpless, the victim of a situation, like everything is spinning out of control, like there's no solution to a given problem, when you can't see a way forward, when you can't find a solution to a problem, when you feel like you have no agency or choice in a situation, when a relationship is feeling toxic or negative. How to use it: When those thoughts begin to spiral, pause and get a pen and piece of paper and write down two columns. At the top of column A, write: "What about this is within my control?" ( This being the thing, person or situation). At the top of column B, write: "What is outside my control?" Then start brainstorming. No matter the situation, you will find items to list in both columns. Remember you DO NOT control other people or their actions. You DO control whether you allow them to treat you badly, this is boundaries and boundaries are OUR responsibility. You don't control if life throws you a bad curveball, obstacle, setback or adversity. You DO control how you react to it. Once you have at least 2 items on the "what do I control" side (and if you try hard enough you should have several more then that), then your task is to immediately begin taking action on those items. If the only thing you control is your own energy and attitude about something, then start changing your mindset immediately about it. Use mottos, mantras or write out the outcome you want. Put ALL your focus there, be relentless at this task, you'll soon find that the problem seems more manageable, things begin to change and momentum starts moving in your favor. 2. AM I BEING A GOOD STEWARD OF WHAT I HAVE? This is the perfect question to ask yourself if you are going through financial hardship OR want to manifest financial abundance. I believe that the Universe can and will deliver insane financial abundance to anyone who puts in the work, intention, gratitude and practices an abundance mindset. My Centrella Method has been teaching people how to do this for over a decade, so I know it works. But, I also believe that we need to show "good faith," first. We need to change our behaviors and make better financial decisions if we expect to get new results. So, start by asking yourself question #1. From that, you'll have a list of things related to your finances that you CAN change. What can you do differently? Then ask yourself: How can I be a better steward of what I have? For instance, where am I bleeding money and how do I stop that bleeding right now? Where am I paying too much for things and what can I do to change that? Am I paying fees and fines for things because I've been too lazy to take care of them on time? Where is money running out the door, and how do I close that door? Write all these down. Brainstorm. Look at your income and expenses. How could you increase income and decrease expenses? Do you have a wealth plan? Even if you have zero to invest, you could start with $20 on Acorns or Robinhood . So, start. Get that going. Show that you're willing to skip on the Starbucks and instead invest that $20. Prove you are good with the money you have so the Universe will trust you with more. Because, here's the facts. If you can't manage what you have today, the problem will not solve itself with more money, you'll find yourself in the exact same position, trust me. So, you need to be a good steward NOW. Be grateful for what you have, grow what you have so you can begin manifesting more and more, and with each financial gain you'll be growing wealth as a result of the changes you've made. 3. HAVE I LOST SIGHT OF THE VISION? Whenever I feel frustrated, like I'm hustling without results, or feel a "funk" coming on, that's my clue to ask myself: Have I lost sight of the end-game, the vision, the dream? In other words, have I been focusing so much on my current reality that I've forgotten why I'm doing it all in the first place? I always tell my clients that we need to focus equally on today as on our future dream outcomes. If we don't spend time daydreaming about what life will be like when we've achieved our desired outcomes, then we get easily discouraged and bogged down by the weight of everyday life. We need that mix of vision and reality. We need the reminder that all the work will pay off, and what that payoff will look like, how it will feel and how it will change our lives. That's what keeps us going. So, if you're feeling unmotivated, frustrated, uninspired and stuck, its probably because you've stopped focusing on that end-game vision. What's it all for? Where are you going? What is waiting for you when you reach those goals and get that desired level of success? Know the answers to these questions. Spend some time writing the vision for your future, what will it be like in 5 years when you have everything you want? How will your life change? Why will it feel so good? Who will be there with you? What will you have or be able to do then that you can't now? Daydream about it. Get re-fired up about it! I hope this helps you get to some of your critical answers. These questions are ones I ask my clients VIP Members every day, and I see how they lead us to find our answers and give us power and control where we'd otherwise feel lost or defeated. If you found this valuable, please return the love by sharing it. Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

The following is an excerpt from my new book All the Things I Wish I Knew, available for pre-order , release date October 4, 2022 How to Embrace Your Story How to value your biggest asset. Your story is your greatest asset. It’s the one thing that is uniquely, you. It’s something no one can take from you, or replicate. It is your competitive advantage. When I first started blogging in 2009, I did so anonymously. My blog Thoughts.Stories.Life., was the one place I could entirely be myself, unfiltered and real. It was the only “person” I had to talk to about all the shit going on in my life. It was how I sorted my thoughts and tried to make sense of past. It’s where I was honest about how hard things were, and how much I was struggling to put my life back together. And it’s where I started sharing my dreams and my plans for the future. All of that was terrifyingly personal, and I never intended for anyone to discover, it was me. And then one day, on my first business trip to New York City, an article I’d written and submitted (I thought anonymously) to a huge website, was published with my name. It was my whole story, my divorce, the fact that I was really a broke single mom struggling to make ends meet, that I had all these dreams and how some of them were beginning to manifest, all of it. The article went viral almost immediately. I remember sitting in my hotel room with the Google alert, panicking. I felt exposed and terrified of the repercussions. I just knew I’d lose my job. But I was there to work, so I pulled myself together and went downstairs to meet a favorite client for lunch. For whatever reason (the Universe knew what it was doing), I opened up to Bill. I told him the whole story, sharing my fear that the public knowing my story, would end me. He looked at me and said, “Sarah, that is your story? I had no idea. That is an incredible story!” “Thanks, but what do I do about it?” I trusted his advice, he is a big time lawyer after all, I knew he’d give it to me straight. “You own it!” He said. “You own your story, Sarah. You don’t run from it, you embrace it. It’s incredible what you’ve been through and how you’re trying to put your life back together and it makes me respect your hustle and character even more. That is your asset, own it.” I’ve gotten a lot of incredible advice in my life, there’s been several times when I’ve sat across from someone and in the moment, knew I was receiving life changing advice. But this was by far the #1 piece of wisdom anyone has ever given me. It changed my life. I would not be here today without it. That advice helped me get comfortable with my story and changed how I viewed it. It was no longer something I was trying to run from or hide, it wasn’t this giant embarrassing secret, it was my past and I was intentionally creating a new future in spite of it. I learned how to be proud of that, and not ashamed. It takes a while to see your own story in this light, but when you do, things can shift in the best possible way. We all have a story, maybe yours is dramatic like mine, maybe not, it doesn’t matter, either way you have a past that has taught you something. What is it? How have you grown or evolved from it? COACHING In my life coach training program , I teach new coaches how to identify and share their story, and here are some of those tips. What are some of the big highlights of you past? Is there adversity you’ve overcome? If so, what? Have you achieved something unique, great, special? How did you do this? What are things you’ve learned from past experience? Did something happen to you in the past that you’ve learned how to move on from? How did you accomplish this? What is your “before” and “after”? Looking at your story from this angle may really help you put it together. Or what is your “before,” and what is your dream-case “after?” That can help you identify your desired outcomes. What part of your story could others relate to or learn from? How can you share your story in a way that others see a reflection of themselves? Answering these questions will help create a framework for your story. Then write it as a two-page descriptive essay, this will help you include the details and make it more captivating. Start with the “before” how things used to be, how you used to feel, and then describe how things are now (or how you want them to be). Re-read and re-write this story many times. Leave it for a week or two and re-write it again. Once you’ve gotten this two-pager tight, meaning it’s condensed and powerful, and says everything you’d like to convey, then write a paragraph version of it. Do the same thing. Condense it down, make it strong. Read it aloud. Send it to a friend who will provide meaningful feedback and adjust if needed. And then at some point, you must set it free. Put it out into the world and trust that everything will be okay. It will feel uncomfortable, exposing, raw, formidable and maybe even embarrassing, but those feelings soon fade. Once you own your story it’s only hard to share the first few times you do it in each format. The first time it’s out there in print (like a blog or social media post), the first time you speak it out loud (to someone, on a podcast or in front of an audience), and the first time you see or hear someone else share your story (like a bio or intro synopsis, an interview or article), those are the hardest. But believe me it gets easier each time. Now I can talk about my story with no emotional attachment whatsoever, I’ve shared it at nauseam, so it just rolls off my lips, that was certainly not the case in the beginning though, so give it time. Whatever your story is, whatever you’ve overcome, chances are millions of people have been through the same thing and will take comfort, relate, or learn something from your bravery in sharing your truth. PRO TIP: You can also do this for specific parts of your journey. For example, with my coaches, they start out writing their story as it relates to “before” they learned the HBRMethod™ (the tools I teach) and “after.” This helps to identify and convey where they were before , how they felt, what they struggled with, what they wanted to change, and then how their lives have changed after. Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

Are You Manifesting Everything You Don't Want? If you don't know what you want, you're probably manifesting everything you DON'T WANT. You see, manifesting is happening to you right now wether you know it or not, and regardless of if you believe it or not. It's a Universal law of life and energy, every bit as real as the law of gravity. Its forces are at work in all our lives, every day, in positive and negative ways. The trick is to harness this force to begin getting the outcomes you WANT, instead of ones you DON'T. The first step in this process is to identify what you want. It's the first question I ask my clients, and the first one we tackle in my coaching program. So, I'll ask you, what do you want? If you don't know the answer to that question, don't feel bad, it's actually a very difficult question for most people. Why? Because it has probably been years since you honestly thought about it, or focused on the "you" part of that sentence. Most people (women in particular) don't think about their personal wants, desires or dreams. But you should, because if not, manifesting is probably happening in your life in its negative form. Meaning, whatever you are focusing on, thinking about, stressing over, or dwelling on, is what will continue showing up in your current and future reality. This is why knowing what you want, and making the conscious decision to focus on it, is so critical to success. If you don't know your destination, you can't ask Google maps for driving directions can you? Our life is the same, it needs directions and destinations, without those two elements we'll keep spinning our wheels going in circles. Stop waiting for something to happen. Stop waiting for inspiration or motivation. Stop waiting for someone to validate or support you or your idea. Stop waiting for help. Stop waiting for anyone to tell you want to do or teach you how to do it. Stop waiting for the answers. Stop waiting. Start asking YOURSELF the tough questions and listening to YOUR OWN answers. Start making something happen. Start defining what YOU (yes, you) want. Start learning what makes you HAPPY and brings you joy. Start letting your dreams motivate and inspire you by daydreaming of them often. Start teaching YOURSELF how to do it, but TRYING the things your learning. Start doing. Not sure of how to start figuring out what you want? HERE ARE A FEW QUESTIONS THAT WILL HELP GET STARTED. What have I always wanted to do or try? What do I love to do? What brings me joy? If I could get paid amazingly for doing something I love doing, what would it be? If you already do know what you want, ask yourself, How bad do I want it? If you can allow yourself to want it bad enough, then you WILL succeed. FREE MINI-COURSE to help you take this further. Get instant access to the first step (DreamIT) of my coaching system The Centrella Method. Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

These are scary times. There's so much happening in the world right now that is out of our control, from mass shootings to wars to inflation, and it's easy to let it consume our minds, thoughts, and emotions. Not to mention the daily stress we're all under in our own lives, all this can lead to fear and anxiety leaving us feeling helpless, overwhelmed, and frustrated. My 3 Proven Ways to Reduce Fear, Anxiety, and Stress. This is when I use my tools to protect my mental health while staying informed of what’s happening in the world. This is my motto to reduce anxiety, or for anything that feels stressful, brings fear, or triggers anxiety: “I control what’s within my power and I let the rest go.” The following is a lesson I share in my upcoming book All the Things I Wish I Knew , it gives my 3 steps to HOW we do this. Excerpt from my book: "One very important lesson I have learned over the years is that stress and anxiety mount when you focus on the things you cannot control. So, when things happen, when life throws you a curve ball, or when you’re in a situation that triggers anxiety or stress, I always ask myself this question: What do I control? I believe we have much more control over our lives, thoughts, outcomes, and situations than we can begin to comprehend. No matter what life throws your way, or how out of control things may feel, we always have a choice. We can focus on what’s going wrong (the negative), which is everything we do not control, thereby making it worse. Or we can decide to focus on the possibility that things could somehow turn around and end up in our favor (the positive). The latter is always within our control. So, no matter what, you’ll always have at least one thing you can control. But often in any situation, there are several components within our control, our job is to quickly assess and identify what they are. The longer we focus on things outside our control, the bigger and more unsurmountable they appear and the more problematic they become, so it’s imperative to quickly stop the bleeding. We gain control using these 3 easy steps: 1. Identify problem. What’s causing you stress and bringing on anxious thoughts? What are you dealing with? What feels out of control? This step is basically assessing the situation, getting a read on what’s happening and how it’s making us feel. Make a list. 2. Ask yourself: What can I control? This is why we identified the problem first, so we could see the pieces that are outside our control, helping us separate the two. Now we can start thinking of elements we DO control. Brainstorm here, quickly make note of everything that comes to mind, get a pen, and write a list. Think of EVERYTHING. We know that we always control where our focus goes, so that’s one. Write down the best possible outcome to your situation, if everything went unexpectedly perfect, what would happen? Now you’ve identified an outcome you want, and something positive to focus on and put into the Universe. What else do you control? What pieces could you start working to “fix”? Here’s where you engage everything you’ve ever learned about problem-solving because that’s exactly what you’re doing. You are looking for unseen solutions, ways you can influence an outcome in your favor. 3. Start executing your action items. The faster you begin working on the pieces you’ve identified as being in your control, the quicker momentum can shift suddenly in your favor. Your focus is soon absorbed with taking the actions you control, and without even realizing it, the magical element of this sequence kicks in… you begin to let go of everything outside your control. When this happens, stress and anxiety fade and are replaced with thoughts and actions pointed in the direction of your desired outcome, thereby creating them. When you use this three-step process it can immediately calm anxiety and shift how you physically and mentally feel. This alone gives you power and control you would have otherwise not engaged. The more you do this, the quicker long-term results will follow. Remember that the work you do today to gain control, also has a delayed reaction, meaning you will see the benefits of your action and focus down the road." Now, let's use those three steps to help protect our mental health as it relates to the current climate of fear and uncertainty in our world today. What's the thing causing us fear/anxiety/stress? ____________ Write down your personal internal dialog on this, what is the conversation like in your head? What are your fears? What elements are OUT of your control? What CAN I control? I can limit exposure to news. I can focus on my own energy. I can focus on the possibility that things could resolve quickly and not escalate (focusing on a positive outcome instead of a worse case). I can donate to organizations that support the causes I believe in and are making an impact on solving the bigger issues I have no control over. Such as The Red Cross, if I want to help bring aid to disaster areas. I can have a fundraiser myself. I can volunteer my time. I can mute accounts on social media that constantly post about it. I can do an activity that brings me joy. I can move my body. I can meditate. Keep brainstorming, and come up with 10 things that you have control over. Start executing on your action items. Now start DOING the things on your list. Put ALL your focus and energy on those items, and take all focus and energy OFF the problem. When you do this, you get your power back. You gain control of your emotions, energy, and personal outcomes, thereby letting go of the rest. Ready to take your life, career, goals, and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO , and podcast host.

You are Stronger than You Think. *The following is an excerpt from my new book All The Things I Wish I Knew, 101 Life Lessons for Women, release date 2022 LESSON #2 You are Stronger than You Think How to understand your power and tap into your strength. Do you understand how strong you are, lady? How capable you are? How brave you can be? I’ve gotta say, many women don’t know their own strength, until it’s tested. That was defiantly the case for me. I’d always known that I’m a pretty scrappy bitch. I mean, I was raised dirt poor and as a result have never been a stranger to hard work and “figuring it out.” But I never considered myself especially “strong,” or even all that capable. Until my life exploded in 2008. At the time I was a stay-at-home mom, married to my high school sweetheart, my days spent taking care of our five-year-old son and one-year-old twins, just trying to survive. It was the recession and we’d lost our home in foreclosure less than six month prior, filed for bankruptcy and were barely keeping the lights on, when I discovered my husband’s double life. I learned of his affair through one simple text, a light blinking “unread” on his phone one evening in September while I cleared the dinner table as he showered. It read, “I can’t wait ‘till you’re finally free, all mine, no more sharing :)” Since that day, the one where everything I ever believed about my life burned to the ground, people have told me, “Sarah, you are so strong. Where did you get the strength to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life?” There’s only one answer to this: primal strength exists within all of us. We have it, it’s there. I wasn’t built with a “strong” gene that you don’t have. I had no choice but to figure out a way to survive with my children, on my own. I didn’t have the luxury of family to fall back on, or a savings account to help me smoothly transition out of my marriage. Instead, I had no job, no income, no savings, bills past due, and not even a car in my name. It was basically every woman’s worst nightmare. And trust me, I did not feel strong. I felt helpless, alone, and very weak. But that night, after he kissed our kids goodbye and tossed his wedding ring in my general direction, I realized I did have a choice. I could give up and fall apart, or I could fight like hell to survive. Strength comes when we stop listening to doubt. We don’t get stronger by telling ourselves we can’t do it. We get stronger by listening to that voice which lives inside each of us, the one that says, “you can .” You are stronger than you could ever imagine girl. Your power and strength are part of your genetic code, and it pumps through your blood and lives in your soul -- you just might not know it yet. Sometimes we don’t tap into our strength until we’ve been thrown into the fire, but it’s there all the same. If you knew your strength, would you make different decisions? If you knew you were capable of building your life from scratch, all by yourself…would you? If you believed that you could make good decisions, take care of yourself, do “hard” things…would you take those chances and make those choices? When we doubt our strength and our abilities, we make decisions based on fear. We marry the wrong guy because we’re afraid he might be the only one to come along. We stay with said wrong guy because we’re afraid we can’t make it on our own. We settle for the job we don’t want because we don’t believe we can land, or excel at the one we deserve. We put off adventure, travel, experiences because we don’t feel strong enough to do them on our own. When we don’t believe in our strength, we feel vulnerable and weak. We seek out other people or situations to make us feel “safe” and “secure,” but girl, the strength you seek is within. TIPS TO BUILD YOUR STRENGTH Start with a motto. Mottos are one of the most powerful, effective, and fastest ways to re-train your brain, change your beliefs, and re-write your story. If you are diligent and use them often, they will work magic. I’ve been teaching clients how to write and use effective mottos for years and am still constantly blown away at how effective they are at creating new outcomes and changing negative beliefs and behaviors. My favorite motto is the one I used when my ex-husband left. It literally changed who I am and how I view myself as a woman. Remember how I said that I felt weak, helpless, and incapable of rebuilding my life alone? Well, every time I felt that way, I began telling myself, “I can do it, I am strong.” I would say it over, and over, and over, until I felt stronger in that moment. I said it so much that before long, I began to believe I was strong. The stronger I felt, the more confident I became, and the more capable I was at dealing with all the new situations I found myself in as a single mom. How to write an effective motto: 1. Identify the “thing” (fear, feeling, belief etc.) you want to change. The clearer you are at naming the exact “thing” the better. 2. Then answer the question, w h at is the NEW outcome I want? Hint: it should be the opposite as your current fear or belief. This is SUPPER important. You must identify the outcome you WANT in order to get it. Example: In the example above, I felt weak and incapable. So, the motto “I can do it, I am strong,” was the antidote to that feeling or belief. It created an outcome that did not exist before, one in which I was strong and capable. It did this first through words alone, then over time those words changed my belief, which changed my actions, which changed my outcomes. Get it? The genesis of all change starts in our mind, starts with what we tell ourselves. There are endless scientific studies on how the brain can turn a lie into truth through repetition, and we normally think of this in negative ways, like how pathological liars use can’t tell the difference between “their truth” and a lie. But we can use that same brain pathway to create new, positive outcomes for ourselves by rapidity telling ourselves the outcomes we want, as if they were true, long before they actually are. That’s why a good motto is so effective, it’s convincing your brain that a new outcome is possible. Silence the doubt. The more time and energy you give to the voice in your head that says, “you can’t,” the weaker you will feel. Good news alert, you can control that voice! You don’t have to listen to it anymore. Start replacing it with “I am capable. I can do it.” Stop looking for all the reasons why it’s “too hard,” and start trusting your instinctual ability to do more, be more, and achieve more than you’ve ever imagined possible. Test your strength, be brave . The best way to begin understanding your strength is to do something you previously thought was impossible. And trust me, it’s way better to electively test your strength than to be forced by the explosion of your entire life! There are all kinds of ways to do this effectively. Scared of heights? Push those limits by taking a cliff hike, a hot air balloon ride, eating in a sky view restaurant, or walking across the foot path of the tallest bridge in your city. Think you can’t make it through a spin class? Take one and see. Think you could never travel alone? Take yourself out to dinner in your city, and prove you are brave, then take a solo trip to the nearest big city. In other words, all those things you’ve been putting off, or have been afraid to try, or think you could never do… do them. You will see how truly capable and strong you are. And if you REALLY wanna prove what a badass you are, run a marathon! That was my ultimate test. I’m not a runner, and that was the one thing I honestly believed was impossible, for me . But I did it. And let me tell you, after running for 7-hours on a 90-degree day, there was zero doubt in my mind that I was one strong-ass bitch! And yes, I get that most people finish in under three hours…and yes, I crossed the finish line as the clean-up crew was breaking it down, but hey, I proved my point, to myself. Let your instincts kick in. I truly believe that in the core of every woman is all the strength they will ever need to get through anything. It’s just part of what makes us so freakin’ amazing. We are worriers and strength is in our DNA. It’s our instinct to feed our children, to take care of the ones we love, to find food and shelter if stranded on a deserted island, so start listening to it. Start acting on those instincts. Trust that when you need it, your secret power will rise up and get you through anything. This is one of the lessons in my new book All the Things I Wish I Knew , along with 80 other lessons, advice, and tools to help women create their dream life. Ready to take your life, career, goals, and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

Here’s what you need to know about success… you've gotta be RELENTLESS. How to be Relentless When Chasing Your Dreams. People who are successful at achieving their goals and dreams, spend their time and energy focusing on the various ways they can achieve their desired result. THAT is where their energy goes. It does not go to thinking about all the ways they could fail. When thoughts of failure come up, they beat them back with more thoughts of DETERMINATION, they remind themselves what they want and why, and they keep trying no matter what. They don’t have backup plans. They put all their eggs in one basket and they (sometimes blindly), boldly, fight through the unknown. That is the only way you build relentless pursuit. When I think of relentless pursuit, I think of a ballerina, I think of the endless and painful hours of consistent practice on bruised and battered feet. I think of YEARS of showing up and DOING THE THING, to get the result the ballerina desires. They come back after horrific days that feel like a failure, and they come back after the performance of a lifetime. They keep coming back to get closer to their goals, no matter what. That is relentlessness. The only way you become relentless is by focusing on your dream outcome, taking daily action toward it, and NOT thinking about the worst-case scenario or your current reality. When you think about your dreams, what thoughts do you foster? Do you allow space for doubt? Do you make room for indecision? Do you tell yourself, “If this doesn’t work, I could always try something else?” Or are you ALLLLLL IN? People who go 200% in are the 1% successful. People who go half-in, get half-assed, unsatisfying results. Which one are you? Don’t wait to feel this confident and this relentless BEFORE you start, remember the ONLY way to get to that point is to build it slowly through focus, vision, visualization, desire, and action. Put in the work and the relentlessness will build on its own. And why do you need to be relentless? Because it will put you on near autopilot, and make you nearly bulletproof, against obstacles disappointment, and adversity, and wouldn’t want that added layer of support? Get after it today!!! The ballerina is in relentless pursuit of a dream moment like this, that will NEVER come if she stops showing up consistently to do the work in practice. Ready to take your life, career, goals, and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO , and podcast host.

On Friday evening (May 25, 2018) sixty women gathered at Coopers Hall in Portland for my 2nd Annual Ladies Empowerment Dinner. This year, my dream for this event was to create true connections and bring value for these ladies. I wanted it to feel electric and almost magical. I wanted the ladies to walk in the door and feel the LOVE! I wanted them to feel beautiful, accomplished, empowered and inspired to continue their own personal missions. I wanted them to leave feeling that ANYTHING was possible and that if they don't quit their dreams, one day they WILL LIVE them. And that dream came to life! I can't tell you how many women came up to me during and after the event who had come alone and were understandably unsure of what to expect. They wondered if it would be your typical event with a room full of judgy women. They came despite this uncertainty. They were so brave! And that courage was rewarded as I watched them joyfully network and meet other women just like them. It was the best feeling ever, to connect these women and see them having a great time. Our speakers really blew me away. It takes a lot of courage to get in front of a room full of strangers and tell your struggles and personal story. It takes courage to be REAL and RAW and HONEST. And they brought all of that and more! Most are NOT professional speakers, and I do that intentionally. I want the women in attendance to learn lessons from REAL women, not professional motivators. So there are nerves, there are emotions, there's rawness because of this that cannot be faked, which is so beautiful to be apart of. The night was kicked off by our special keynote speaker, BRAVO TV host, and Love Expert Diann Valentine. She talked about the origins of our dreams and what it takes to make them come to life. And after her talk, I sat down with her and did a very real, very raw chat/interview. This was my favorite part of the night. Getting to ask these amazing women questions that drew on their real-world experience and connected us with them. It was my first time in the interview chair and it was a BLAST! It was my training wheels for one day hosting my own show because that is my BIG dream. The food was amazing, the wine was incredible, the vibe was electric... it was everything I could dream of and more! I can't wait until next year! Now its time to plan one in LA and NYC! Get my FREE #FUTUREBOARDS COACHING VIDEO Sarah Centrella is a 2x best-selling author, master life coach, keynote speaker and podcaster.

Simple Tips for Achieving Your Goals. Why success doesn't just happen. Last night I found a note I'd written to myself (on my phone's notes) in January of 2011. I wrote this when I was a single mom with three little kids to support and raise on my own (full-time). When my salary was barely above the poverty line. When I was just trying to survive and keep my head above water. When I had no one to lean on or confide in. I wrote it before... Before I'd written a single page of a book. Before we had a single stamp on our passports (or even had passports). Before I'd had a six-figure year. Before I owned a car with less than 200,000 miles on it. Before I ran a marathon. Before I read books, cooked daily for my kids, or traveled, or learned how to take care of and depend on myself. Back when I felt scared and alone most of the time. Simple Tips for Achieving Your Goals Before I did all of that... I dreamed I COULD. It was NOT EASY. It was NOT luck. No one gave it to me. No one made it happen, BUT ME. Before I manifested a single thing on that list, I ALLOWED MYSELF TO WANT IT. I WROTE IT DOWN. I began to imagine what my life would be like if any of that stuff came true. I gave HOPE a chance. I started taking imperfect ACTION towards it, even though I had no idea what I was doing, or how to make it happen. I actively controlled the voices in my head, changing the "I can't" into "I will." And now, 9 years later, I can check off everything on that list (except the goal weight and "mommy makeover." but those will come!). 9 years later... My kids and I have traveled to five countries (passports stamped!), been to 2 home Ravens (NFL) games, sat court-side at NBA games, sat in suites at MLB games, and taken a train across Italy. I've written 2 traditionally published #1 best-selling books, taken the kids to Disneyland, flown first class more times than I can count, far exceeded my income goals multiple years in a row, have bought 3 Mercedes, ran a marathon, become a pretty decent cook, and created a life I LOVE. I share this not to brag, but to say... If I could do it, ANYONE CAN! ARE YOU where you dreamed you would be 9 years ago? Are you living your wildest dreams? Is your life what you imagined it could be? Are you the person you dreamed of becoming? If not, MAKE THAT SHIT HAPPEN!! Do NOT wait one more day. DO NOT PUT IT OFF FOR ONE MORE MINUTE. You can't afford to NOT be living a life you love. NEED HELP? I've created COUNTLESS RESOURCES (at every budget) to teach you everything I've learned. You can; read my books , do the homework. You can get the companion homework journal to take the work even deeper on your own. The options are there. No matter your budget, you CAN learn how to do this. You CAN change your life. You CAN begin living your wildest dreams. There is no excuse to NOT be living a life you LOVE! Start checking off your goals and dreams, you've got this! Check out my chapter on how to set goals correctly in my new book All the Things I Wish I Knew , plus 80 other lessons, coaching and advice to help you live your dream life. Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

Words You Should Never Say: Replace with These. Did you know that your words are not only an order to the Universe, but they are also a very real signal to your brain, relaying the message of what you want. So, when you say something like; “I can’t afford that.” Not only is the Universe at work making sure that you don’t get the opportunity that would have given you a raise, and making sure your car brakes down so you’ll remain in a financially strained situation, but your brain is also working hard to fulfill that order. It’s going to make sure that you sabotage the opportunity for more money because you’ve made the declaration that you can’t afford things… creating a cycle. It may seem oversimplified to say that in order to change the above scenario, all you have to do is 1.) Stop saying you couldn’t afford things. 2.) Start saying: "I am abundant" and "I always have more than enough." Here's the truth, you can’t get new results with an old mindset and old words. You’ve gotta upgrade both to get the life you want, and changing your words is one of the simplest ways to do that. This is a list of words to REMOVE from your vocabulary moving forward and examples of how to replace them. Be vigilant. Don’t allow yourself to speak words that do not serve you and teach your children (and friends) to do the same! REMOVE these words from your vocabulary. I wish, I’ll try, I’m trying, I can’t, I’m scared, I’m afraid, I’m terrified, I’m nervous, I’m anxious, I’m stressed, I doubt…, that’s doubtful, I hope, if only, FML, fuck my life, I’m exhausted, I’m burned out, I’m over it, I don’t care, I’m broke, I can’t afford it, maybe I will, possibly, I might, it might, I’m sick, I don’t feel good, everything’s going wrong, I’m a hot mess, my life is a hot mess, my life sucks, people suck, this sucks, life’s unfair, life sucks, I’m unlucky, I never win anything…. Quick Word Rules: Use the PAST TENSE: When you are speaking about yourself in reference to a bad habit, negative thought or anything that you’d like to change, ALWAYS use PAST TENSE. Say; “I USED to worry about money every day.” Instead of saying “I do, worry about money all that time.” Always refer to anything you want to change as being in the past (even if it’s not yet). Use DECLARATIVE words - always! When you’re speaking about something you want, or would like, ALWAYS speak in words that declare your desired outcome as a given. Say; “I WILL start that business.” Or “WHEN I start my business.” Don’t say; “I wish, I’d like to, I want to, maybe I will, hopefully, I will…. start a business.” Remove the possibility of failure and all doubt from your words, declare the outcome you want! When speaking about your future only use positive language that predicts outcomes you want. When labeling yourself –saying “I am," use words that build you up, create confidence, give you empowerment, make you feel good, show growth, and describe the person you WANT to be. Say: “I am learning.” Instead of saying “God! Why am I so stupid!” Use visual words as often as possible when talking to yourself or others. Try to paint a picture with your words, it will help your visualization skills immensely and connect the paths in your brain to create new outcomes that match those mental images. Your words are constantly creating your reality, that is some HEAVY POWER you have. Use it wisely! Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Follow Instagram @sarahcentrella and tag me :) Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books , a motivational keynote speaker , master life coach, Founder of VIVIAMO and podcast host.

Hearing "No" Just Means: Not Yet When it Comes to Achieving Success. If you haven’t gotten a “no.” Or a “no thank you.” Or an “I’m gonna have to pass.” On your journey towards successfully living your dreams, then your journey probably hasn’t even started yet. Get comfortable with NO. It’s just the BEGINNING of the process! It serves a VITAL role in helping you better formulate your plan, ideas, and vision. It helps you articulate it more clearly. It fuels your passion and desire to succeed. It’s a necessary part of the process. Stop taking it at face value. Stop assuming that the person giving you the “no” is the end-all, be-all to your success. If they don’t like your idea then find someone who does! My first book (a terribly written memoir ) was rejected by EVERY SINGLE listed agent who represents memoirs. That process was a grueling YEAR of Solid “no’s” in which I was told by many agents I should probably stop “trying to write.” That process turned me into a real writer. During all that time I KEPT WRITING. I kept perfecting my craft. I knew that to get one yes, I’d likely have to get 30 no’s. So when those no’s rolled in, I could shake them off and say; “It only takes ONE yes. My ‘yes’ is coming!” #HustleBelieveReceive was turned down by about 20 publishers before three said yes. “No” just means, “not yet.” It just means your not quite ready, or the person/place/thing the “no” is coming from isn’t a good fit for you. If you need proof of this think of how many times your kids ask (nag) you for something? How many times do you say no before eventually caving in and saying yes? EXACTLY. Be that kid! Ready to take your life, career, goals and yourself to the next level? Check out my life coaching options or take my online life coaching courses to get the results you DESERVE! Follow Instagram @sarahcentrella and tag me :) Sarah Centrella is a #1 best-selling author of several self-help books, a master life coach, and the Founder of VIVIAMO